Comments on: Loyalty http://arlenegoldbard.com/2006/07/16/loyalty/ culture, politics and spirituality Wed, 19 Nov 2008 14:04:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Mike Thomann http://arlenegoldbard.com/2006/07/16/loyalty/#comment-2378 Mike Thomann Mon, 17 Jul 2006 18:31:43 +0000 http://arlenegoldbard.com/?p=198#comment-2378 Loyalty is not an absolute. Fundamentally, loyalty is the degree to which you serve another's interests based on your perception of their support for your interests. Your perception of their support for your interests can be based on many things including their shared ideas and ideals and the reciprocation of caring, consideration, and support. If that perception is misguided then loyalty is blind, such as when a mentally disabled person becomes loyal to someone that acts as a friend that makes a joke of them. Loyalty fades when your perception of their support for your interests fades, either through the realization of false perceptions or through realization of real change in your interests or theirs which would make either less supportive. Unconditional loyalty is as possible as dividing one by zero. It has to be based on something that makes it possible. The identification of lies is the direct path to the realization of false perceptions and the quickest route to disloyalty. Extremely hurtful lies can disrupt loyalty to such a degree that true support for your interests by others in the future won't be trusted unless they appear more credible than those prior false perceptions, but it's best for one to learn how they previously failed to identify prior false perceptions to help them identify true ones in the future. Change in interests is a natural phenomenon that provides personal growth through the pursuit of various experiences. People never stop growing through changing interests but when their personal growths are aligned to allow them to identify that their changing interests will continue to parallel, they may be in a position to make commitments that could pave the road to the highest and most rewarding form of loyalty. Loyalty is not an absolute. Fundamentally, loyalty is the degree to which you serve another’s interests based on your perception of their support for your interests. Your perception of their support for your interests can be based on many things including their shared ideas and ideals and the reciprocation of caring, consideration, and support. If that perception is misguided then loyalty is blind, such as when a mentally disabled person becomes loyal to someone that acts as a friend that makes a joke of them.

Loyalty fades when your perception of their support for your interests fades, either through the realization of false perceptions or through realization of real change in your interests or theirs which would make either less supportive.

Unconditional loyalty is as possible as dividing one by zero. It has to be based on something that makes it possible. The identification of lies is the direct path to the realization of false perceptions and the quickest route to disloyalty. Extremely hurtful lies can disrupt loyalty to such a degree that true support for your interests by others in the future won’t be trusted unless they appear more credible than those prior false perceptions, but it’s best for one to learn how they previously failed to identify prior false perceptions to help them identify true ones in the future.

Change in interests is a natural phenomenon that provides personal growth through the pursuit of various experiences. People never stop growing through changing interests but when their personal growths are aligned to allow them to identify that their changing interests will continue to parallel, they may be in a position to make commitments that could pave the road to the highest and most rewarding form of loyalty.

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